Remember the one hot guy you thought you couldn’t live without? Even though he had a penchant for acting like a bastard at times, you forgave him and before you know it, you’ve both fallen into a pattern of making up and breaking up every other day. It’s okay, we’ve all been there, replaying the same messy drama because the chemistry feels so intense and addictive, even when our friends are begging us to walk away and choose our sanity over chaos.

But eventually, this kind of volatile relationship grows tiring and ends where it began - going nowhere. So how do you break this dangerous dating habit? Vow to make the first time you break up with your guy and decide to forgive him the last time. Tell yourself clearly that you’re not signing up for an endless sequel of the same fight and tearful reunion, no matter how tempting his apologies and promises suddenly sound in the moment when you’re lonely.

If your guy has done something that warrants a break up and you decide to give him another chance, don’t do it again. The next time his actions warrant breaking up, end the relationship instead and stick to your guns, instead of taking a ride on the emotional roller coaster that breaking up and making up will almost certainly become. Your peace of mind is worth more than recycled drama, late-night texts, and temporary comfort that fades fast by morning.

Sure, making up after a heated fight almost always leads to hot sex, but after awhile, the lust will fade and resentment that comes with continued disagreements will set in. The more you repeat the cycle, the harder it becomes to remember what healthy love even feels like. Choose calm, steady affection over chaos, and let your body catch up with what your heart already knows you truly need to be happy and at peace in the long run, not just tonight.